Do we actually know what we want?
I will start this blog off by acknowledging that there are clearly some things that we know we want and even more so there are things that we know we do not want. It is fair to assume we do not want a family member to become gravely unwell all of a sudden, nor do we want our house to burn down. Evidently these are generalisations but it is safe to assume that they are relevant to the majority of us.
It is safe to say that most of the time our goals are appropriate and once achieved we are appropriately satisfied by them, until one of our other sub personalities pops up and we desire something else. Nevertheless, the chances are that we have all been in situations where what we believed to be the thing we desired did not go on to evoke the predicted response or outcome, implying a feeling of unease and confusion. One that is most likely there to inform us of a miscalibration and aid us in progressing correctly
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Where did our line of thinking stray of track? What factors did we misrepresent or omit from our conceptualisation? And most importantly, what can I learn from this miscalculation and how can I sharpen my aim? These are all questions we must consider when this happens, in order to progress as an individual and move towards the life we desire it is important that we understand the underpinnings of our motivations and the consequences of our actions.
Thankfully, most wrong decisions and misfires can be rectified quickly and we are able to gain the wisdom without there being much of a detriment to our lives. Personally I believe it all comes back to truth and how honest we are with ourselves and others. If you lie to yourself or someone else in the pursuit of a goal then to some degree the whole action is tainted and impure, this can often lead to the sensation I have described above and at which point introspection is the best idea.
So next time you are struck by a target or a goal, ask yourself am I aiming at the the right thing and how much am I going to have to deviate myself in an awkward and deceitful manner in order to pursue this? If the answer is a lot, then I recommend reconsidering your intentions and attempting to recalibrate your projections, it could save you a lot of pain in the future.
One thing is for certain, inertia is not the answer. By staying still you will never progress, so try your best to strive towards your ideal and accept the aspect of stumbling around and making mistakes. With time you will mature and become better at understanding yourself and your dreams.
Until next time,
OxJ