Is Modern Dating F*cked?

Dating can be tricky at the best of times. Especially when you're pretty new to this world and other people and you don't really know what the red flags you should be looking out for are.

And like a lot of things, dating and relationships have been greatly impacted and morphed by the technological revolution that we've seen take place over the past 50 years or so.

Unfortunately not all of these changes have been positive, many have, but dating and relationships is something that more and more people are thinking has been impacted negatively. Especially young people.

One of the biggest dating issues of recent years is the introduction of dating apps. In theory they sound great, they provide you with access to people that you may not get to meet in your day to day life. But the reality is that they are biased towards female success and most men receive very little attention. This is due to females tendency to be hypergamous when looking for heteresuxual relationships, long or short term. As well as many of the attributes that woman find attractive in men not being able to be easily conveyed through a 6 inch screen.

This leads to a small number of men that can display somewhat superficial qualities, good looks, physical fitness and a high-level of education. Receiving preferential attention from the woman that use these apps. Whilst nearly all the other men receive almost zero attention.

Another reason for the growing inequality in dating opportunities amongst men and woman is the, quite rightly, increase in female education, power in the workplace and overall higher status in society. Now of course this is all positive and one of the brilliant benefits of modern technology and science. However, considering the notion I pointed out earlier, woman's tendency to date up the social and financial hierarchy, more and more men are being squeezed out of the dating market and woman are leaving them behind in these facets of life. Which is great for the women, until they want to pursue a long-term relationship and now their list of possible suitors has decreased.

So how do we address this situation and implore young people to pursue monogamous, stable and loving relationships? No idea. Social media and false idols have warped the minds of young people. In some ways they may be beneficial. Change is necessary. But in others ways it's been damaging. Social media has a lot to answer for, and the advantage that woman have has caused even more of a power imbalance.

But maybe there just isn't enough of an incentive to date nowadays, the possibilities that we possess are near infinite. Maybe we have better things to do than build relationships and raise the next generation.

So what do you think is the solution and how will future generations fix/adapt to the issue? Will we see a return to highly traditional relationships, or will our conception of dating change completely? And what will future consequences of our current dating dilemma be?

Thank you for reading,

Until next time,

BP